The Ultimate Workbook: Break the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle: A Guide for Anxious Lovers

Are you stuck in the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle? 

This is the painful pattern where the more you try to get close, the more they pull away, leaving you feeling anxious, rejected, and emotionally alone.
 
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, it might look like:
  • Feeling like you're "too much" or not enough
  • Drawn to emotionally unavailable or distant partners
  • Tired of feeling like you’re the only one trying
  • Replay past relationships, wondering what you did wrong
  • Holding back your needs to avoid conflict. Or express them and feel rejected
You’re not too much.
You’re in a cycle.
And cycles can be broken.
 
This workbook is your step-by-step guide to finally break free.
 

“What’s included?"

→ A 125-page workbook that goes deep; but stays simple

→ 12 powerful reflection exercises to help you actively apply what you learn

→ Clear, relatable explanations of the patterns keeping you stuck

→ Practical tools rooted in my Secure Within Method—a proven 7-step process to break the cycle

"What will I actually get out of this?"

By working through the workbook and taking real action, you’ll be able to:

  • Break the cycle using my 7-step process.
  • Spot red flags sooner and stop choosing unhealthy partners who leave you anxious and heartbroken.
  • Recognize how you're contributing to the cycle and shift it.
  • Set boundaries against any unhealthy behaviors with confidence.
  • Stay grounded when they pull away, instead of spiralling.
  • Handle space, conflict, and disconnection like a secure person instead of panicking.
  • Know when to hold on — and when to let go

“What makes this workbook different?"

I know the pain of this cycle—because I’ve lived it.

I was BOTH anxious and avoidant: craving closeness, yet pulling away out of fear I’d lose myself.

It was exhausting; and it kept me from the love I deeply wanted.

Over the last 15+ years, I’ve done the inner work to break those patterns.

Today, I’m in a secure 8-year relationship with my amazing fiancé, but that didn’t just happen.

I worked on becoming secure first.

That’s what this workbook is here to help you do: build a secure relationship with yourself first.

Because when you’re secure within, everything shifts; what you tolerate, who you’re drawn to, how you communicate, and how you show up.

This isn’t about changing them. It’s about healing the one thing you can control—you.

Let this workbook be your starting point.

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